Protect each other's anonymity
Most people here have told no one. What is written in this app can follow someone into the rest of their life.
- Never post real names, faces, workplaces, or towns
- Not other people's, and not your own. Details that feel harmless one at a time are what make someone findable.
- Don't screenshot and share what happens here
- Including with friends outside the app. People wrote it believing this room was closed.
- Don't ask anyone to move to another app or hand over their number
- If you want someone walking with you, use Accountability Partners — it keeps you both inside the walls, where the protections are.
Don't be the reason someone relapses
Everyone reading is fighting the same thing you are. Some of them are only hours into it.
- No explicit or suggestive content, ever
- Images, links, or words. This is the one rule that does not come with a warning first.
- Don't describe what you looked at or where you found it
- Detail is a map. Say that you struggled — not what you struggled with.
- Nothing posted to test where the line is
- Bait, edgy jokes, “just checking if this is allowed”. You already know the difference.
Treat people like people
Nobody arrives here on a good day.
- No harassment, pile-ons, or contempt
- Disagreeing is fine. Making someone feel small is not.
- Don't preach at someone who just fell
- Scripture belongs here. Using it as a weapon does not.
- Stop the first time someone asks you to stop
- In the feed and in messages. The first ask should be the only one they need to make.
- Report it instead of arguing with it
- A report reaches a human who can act. A reply reaches the whole room.
Keep the space honest
This only works if what you see here is real.
- One account, and it belongs to you
- No impersonating other members, staff, or the app itself.
- No selling, promoting, or recruiting
- Including your own program, channel, or ministry. People came here for recovery, not an audience.
- Don't inflate a streak you didn't walk
- Nobody is checking, which is exactly why it counts. A number you faked is a number that can't encourage anyone — including you.
- Don't attack the app itself
- No exploits, scraping, or helping anyone slip past their own blocker. Found a hole? Tell us — we mean that as a thank you.
Something reads it before the room does
You should know this, because it is reading what you write. It is not a person, and it is not looking for your confession.
- What it reads
- Anything written where other people can see it: posts and replies, the name, rules and welcome message of a community, events, channel names, your bio, and prayer requests you share with the app or with your friends. It reads photographs as well as words.
- What it is not looking for
- Saying you relapsed, saying it bluntly, saying you feel disgusting, naming what you are fighting — all of that is what this app is for, and all of it goes straight up. It is looking for the things that would hurt somebody else reading: explicit material, links to it, detail that works as a map, contempt aimed at a person.
- Words and photographs are treated differently, on purpose
- If the reviewer cannot answer in time, your words are published anyway — a room where nobody can speak because a machine is having a bad morning is a dead room. A photograph is the opposite: it is never shown to anybody until it has actually been looked at. A picture cannot be un-seen, and waiting is the cheaper mistake.
- Editing something means it is read again
- A post that has been cleared and is then changed is checked again from scratch, on the new words.
- It cannot punish you
- It can hold something back and it can take down a bio or a channel name that breaks the rules — those are already public the moment they are written, so there is nothing to hold. It cannot warn you, restrict you, or ban you. Only a person does that, and a person reads every single thing it holds.
- It does not read the moderation team
- Posts written by the owner, managers, staff and moderators are not sent to the reviewer. They are named, accountable people who answer for what they write, and holding a moderator's reply while somebody is in crisis costs more than it protects. This does not apply to the people who run individual communities — a community lead is screened exactly like everybody else.
- It gets things wrong
- When it holds something of yours you are told, in plain words, what it thought and why. If it was wrong, say so — a human reads it, and being wrongly held is not held against you.
- Your private messages are not read by anyone
- Direct messages are encrypted end to end. We cannot open them, and neither can the reviewer — there is genuinely nothing there for it to look at. The only way a private message reaches us is if one of the two people in it reports it.
What happens if a guideline is broken
This is the order it goes in. It is numbered because it genuinely is a sequence — each step only happens after the one before it.
- First warningYou are told exactly which guideline was crossed, and shown the post or message it came from. Nothing is taken away.
- Second warningThe same, and it goes on your record. A moderator points at the specific thing rather than describing it vaguely.
- Third warningThe last one that costs you nothing. You are told plainly that the next step removes something.
- The feature it happened in is switched offFor a week. If it was messages, messages go. If it was replies, replies go. If it was the prayer wall, that goes. Everything else stays open — the point is to stop the harm, not to shut down your whole life here. If it was happening everywhere, posting goes quiet instead.
- Final warningOne notice, in plain words: the next breach is a full timeout. Nothing after this is a surprise to you.
- A full social timeoutOne to four weeks. The community, prayers, messages and Instants all go quiet. Your blocker, your streak, your plan and every recovery tool keep working — we do not take away the thing you came for.
- A permanent banThe account is closed and its messages are removed. One moderator cannot do this alone — a second has to agree before it takes effect.
Where the ladder does not apply
Some things skip every step
Anything sexual involving a minor, predatory contact, sharing explicit material, or deliberately exposing who someone is. There is no warning count for these. The first one is the last one, and where the law requires it we report it.
Warnings do not last forever
Six months with nothing further and a moderator clears your record. Someone who slipped once last year should not be standing one step away from a ban.
You can appeal any step
Every decision comes with a way to challenge it, and a real person reads it. If we got it wrong, the decision is reversed and the restriction is lifted — not just apologised for.
Reporting something
Every post, reply, message and profile has a report option. A report goes to a moderator, not into a queue nobody reads, and the person you reported is never told who reported them.
If someone is in danger, or something here involves a minor, report it and then contact your local emergency services. We act on those immediately and, where the law requires it, we report them on.